Change depends on the impact resulting from findings made throughout life or resulting from psychotherapeutic processes. The finding always stems from questioning. It is an attitude made possible by the discovery that what one did not expect or imagine would happen does happen. If the individual lives an accommodated life or does supportive psychotherapy and maintains understanding relationships, these factors never question, never create impact, and never provoke verification because the path of verification is already occupied, taken by the recognition of one's own weaknesses and qualities, becoming a justification to validate the events. And so there is no finding. What exists is the recognition of "fitting into the form" of being adequate/inadequate to the processes that help and support or massacre and destabilize.
The finding always has an impact, while the inquiries generated by the adequacy/inadequacy evaluations constitute acknowledgments of previous existences. This is why in the verification or finding, there is no familiarity. It is always new that imposes itself, resulting from a questioning that brings change - this is when certainties are overthrown. To deal with these new configurations is to give up previously defined positions that no longer mean anything. When this happens, honesty and coherence emerge, and also the recognition of one's own motivations, sometimes undetected or stored in the general repository of incoherence. Thus, it is clear that the certainties that result from help and understanding also create the commitments of maintenance and care. Following the line, the indicated path is usually a repetition that beckons for advantages as much as it creates rules, methods, and non-individualized solutions.
Leaving the linearity of certainties and certainties takes the human being to broader situations, be they of availability or of revealing contingencies. The amplitude of the demands goes beyond the right/wrong positions attributed to other contexts and by other relational structures. To live is to discover, not to repeat. Every repetition brings itself alienating conditions since it refers to temporal horizons different from the present ones. Individual motivations may be diverse from society, just as social motivations may differ from family rules. Without the chains of commitment, the individual is confronted with himself and establishes questions that change his dependencies and broaden his horizons. Change breaks ties because it always implies movement and always leads to the expansion of experiential and relational panoramas. To leave one's position and move oneself is to discover and verify possibilities, fears, encounters, and mismatches. It is also being with the other, integrated or disintegrated by the new findings. The continuity of change is fundamental. It leads to the overcoming of what is established, of the context of adjustment to the family, society, etc., that is, the overcoming of past reality. To change means to update, to respond to the questions, to the stimuli of being in the world, and it is exactly for this reason that the human being develops and grows.
Change expands our life by breaking down positions, as much as it limits it by generating implications about numerous findings that need to be experienced - these are the impasses. When change generates an impasse, it is fundamental not to cling to compensatory results. When we succeed in our confrontations, success can bring more doubt, fear, and maintenance, throwing away disalienating realizations. This is exactly where one can see how close change and maintenance are and how the endpoints of the processes meet. The daily psychotherapeutic work often reveals this to us. It is important not to lose sight of the fact that similarities create differentiations that are responsible for questioning, for findings, and for movements generated by established theses and antitheses.