Psychological experiences are based on meanings we attribute to things, on meanings and purposes resulting from encounters, frustrations and desires. Understanding these dynamics is fundamental to understanding human relationships. The question of meanings and senses is the basis of semantics - the study of meaning and relationship with a signifier. Meaning is associated with the context and the signifier is associated with form, words or signs. In psychotherapy, observing individual processes and the attribution of meanings and their distortions, is fundamental.
Finding yourself unimportant or very important, feeling below or above others creates isolation. In this context, structured as a point of reference, the individual becomes a compass, a measuring rod that assigns meaning to its experiences and those of others. It is the measuring machine accounting for what happens. In these individuals, discoveries and novelties establish parameters that swallow meanings intrinsic to the processes and become behavioral guidelines, generating comparative meanings such as superior and inferior. Exiling himself from the world, becoming alpha and omega, the beginning and end of processes, the person punctualizes itself, thus abolishing the configurative networks of experiences and encounters. Everything is reduced to comparisons such as succeed or fail, hit or miss, keep or lose. And so, the daily experience consists of verifying profit, crying losses, dwelling on fear, apathy or depression, as much as, by the propulsion of applause, dwelling on profits and advantages, parking on the podiums of anxiety, competition and victories (always watching, as frequent findings threaten). To become a coveted product, to be successful, or to become an uncomfortable waste, garbage marked by failure, is the everyday life, the meaning given to being in the world with the other.
How to transform these accumulations of gains or losses, of affirmations or depreciations? Changing the attitude, observing that in life the "how" is the fundamental principle, and that by denying it in terms of why or for what purpose, one alienates oneself and finally is beaten down by shame and fear, losing oneself amid usury and greed. What is regarded as an obstacle is not support, it should not be thought of as a basis for supporting and justifying life goals. Perceiving the other as the opponent or as the one who helps, the object that leverages or overthrows is an annihilating semantics generated by the non-acceptance of limits, impossibilities and possibilities; it comes from the unbridled search of wanting to be the center, the winner "like the powerful, the rich, the successful, or the beautiful and intelligent."
Structuring meanings of acceptance and well-being are found in the continuities of present experiences, in which the present is perceived in the context of the present and not in the context of past experiences or future aspirations. A present experienced as a present never implies distortion, mechanization, as much as when the experiences of the present are filtered by the before (past) or the after (future), always implies distortions, positions of fear, shame, anxiety, expectation, envy, certainty/uncertainty and doubts, for example. Living what you live is totally different from living what you need to live, what you want to be, or what you want to achieve or avoid.